Woman Finds Out Sister-In-Law Buys Christmas Gifts For Husband’s Ex Instead of Her, Tries to Dictate How She Spends Her Money and on Whom, SIL Puts Her Foot Down: ‘You don’t get to decide who I buy Xmas gifts for’

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Dec 22, 2024 3:00 PM EST

Welcome back ladies and gentlemen of the internet. Christmas is a wonderful time of year. Not only do you get time off from work, but everyone is pressured to feel the holiday spirit by trying to be nice to each other. Gift giving, family time, and the spirit of Christmas transform this season to a favorite time of year for many. But generous gift giving and trying to be on Santa's good list don't always work out. Some people are Scrooges, Grinch's, or just don't have the holiday spirit at all. 

In this Reddit thread, the original poster (OP) is a woman whose brother just got married for the second time. He was dating his ex since high school and had two kids with her, so she's pretty close with the extended family, much to the dismay of his current wife. She gets word that OP still buys her ex SIL Christmas gifts, and she demands she stop. Merry Christmas, and hopefully these women sort out their beef. 

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    Then she said we should be spending the money on her instead or "something more worthwhile than her".
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    r/AITAH 12 hr. ago Fun_Instance_3078 AITA for telling my new SIL she doesn't get a say on who my family and I buy gifts for?
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    My brother (32M) is married to Sarah (30F) who's his second wife. My brother's ex wife Hannah (31F) is the mother of my nephews (10 & 7) and my niece (9). Hannah was dating my brother in high school and she was a part of the family for a long time. I (27F) always loved her and the rest of my family did too and we still do. We're friendly with Hannah. And we still get her
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    something for Christmas and her birthday and that never stopped.
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    But Sarah knows about this and when she learned what we do from my brother she confronted me and told me I need to speak to my parents and the rest of my siblings and we need to stop giving Hannah gifts. She told me it's disrespectful to her and we're wasting our money by doing this.
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    Then she said we should be spending the money on her instead or "something more worthwhile than her".
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    I told Sarah she doesn't get a say on who we buy gifts for or how we spend our money. And I told her I would appreciate her not making demands like that because it's not her place. Sarah said she is my brother's wife now and she has every right to expect we'd forget Hannah. She also told me I was implying she wasn't family by
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    saying it's not her place and she doesn't get a say and that we're basically all giving her a big f you. AITA?
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    VinylHighway • 12h ago • Top 1% Commenter NTA - she's a piece of cr p
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    9smalltowngirl • 11h ago Top 5% Commenter NTA and your response should have been, Hannah is the mother of my niece and nephews. She has been a part of our family for 15 years. You have zero say in who we love and how we express that love. Oh and I about forgot to tell you to f off.
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    anchbosu 11h ago • You are allowed to buy gifts for whoever you want to buy gifts for. If Hannah is your friend, do whatever you want for her.
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    • spaced2259 11h ago • Oh bring this into the light of day for the family so she can get the f you she deserves... wow the entitlement here...
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    Hemiak 11h ago • NTA. Ask her if she really wants to be family, or if she just wants to win over the Ex. If she wants to be family she probably shouldn't come in making demands and trying to buy people.
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    El_Culero_Magni... • 11h ago • Top 5% Commenter I think the gift she has suggested for herself is perfect! A BIG F YOU
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    MegSays001 • 10h ago Top 5% Commenter Coming soon; wife # 3! Edit to add: NTA
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    Bungeesmom ⚫ 11h ago • NTA, bet she doesn't want any money spent on his kids either. I foresee a divorce...
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    Huge-Shelter-3401 • 8h ago • She is the mother of your niece and nephews - HIS KIDS. Of course ex is and will still be a part of your family. Sarah needs to learn her place as a second wife and realize that there were relationships before her.
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    Majestic Register... • 7h ago • Top 5% Commenter Because she deserves it, here's a petty suggestion: Sarah said she is my brother's wife now Reply, "You're his wife for now but we know that might not
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    mean forever." And when your brother gets involved, "I'll stop saying stupid things when she does. Honestly, bro, this is your mess, you deal with it and keep it away from me."
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    Not peaceful but I get the feeling Sarah isn't a peaceful gal so might as well have fun. with her. NTA
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    Careless-Image-885 7h ago • NTA. Give Hannah even bigger gifts. Go to lunch with her. I would totally honor Sarah's request. I would tell my family EXACTLY what she said and how she said it.
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